Final Post on Ephesians 4:32

I have shared the concept of kindness, tenderhearted, and being forgiving from Ephesians. These three things are to be added into your life, and you are to be characterized by these three qualities.

The purpose clause comes at the end of the verse. It says, “as God in Christ forgave you.” That settles it! If a loving, holy, just, God can forgive a sinner full of sin, than it is imperative that you be kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving to everyone, as God has been to you! Have you, through Jesus, received forgiveness of your sins? Then spread the wealth!


Of the three imperatives in this verse – Ephesians 4:32 this is without a doubt the most difficult for some to obey. The verse states, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” I will share a number of various thoughts on this concept, but I want you to focus now on just the idea of extending forgiveness.

I have known many who have harbored anger, bitterness, and unkind thoughts for years. The idea of not extending forgiveness to someone will cripple you, and often not even impact the other person. (Many times they don’t even know of the harbored ill thoughts) Anger and bitterness only destroy and weaken the container and the vessel that holds them. If you read verse 30-31 right before this verse you will see that you are grieving the Holy Spirit when you decide to not extend forgiveness.

Life is short –
Live Life with a Clear Mind and Heart towards Others!

Tenderhearted – Ephesians 4:32 (continued)

From “kindness” the verse goes on to the next word “tender- hearted”. This word is used only two times in all of the Bible. The other verse where this word is used is 1Peter 3:8. It says, “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.”

You notice that in 1 Peter 3:8 the word sympathy is used. Tenderhearted therefore is a different word than just being sorrowful. The word comes two root words that are “well” and “intestines”. The idea is that your very inner being is to be compassionate, soft, and tender toward other people. It is not enough to be just kind and nice. As a believer in Jesus Christ, you must engage compassionately, from your inner being to assist, help, and touch others!

Hardened hearts suffer, become calloused, and don’t care about others. A tender heart is helpful, caring, and engaging!

“Be kind one to another, tenderhearted …”


One of my favorite verses and one of the most probing verses of Scripture is Ephesians 4:32. It says, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

In our next couple of posts we will examine the various aspects of this verse. It is quite a verse, and for most of us, a very difficult one to live and flesh out at times in our life. For now, start with the first part and be kind to the next six people you see!

The Will of God

A lot of interest and confusion surrounds the will of God and how specific it might be to an individual. I do not want to address that point today, but would like to speak to the basis of His will.

The Will of God is completely found in His Word. His love letter describes what His will is and how to do it. Example: It is His will is for you to be kind at all times. Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted …” Knowing this verse, it is His Will for you to always act in kindness! His will is rooted in His Word. Know and live His Word, and I will promise that you are in the Will of God!

“The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.” (1 John 2:17)